I've never enjoyed doing things the way they're "supposed" to happen and I make my own rules quite often.
Time is Irrelevant
You should brush your teeth for exactly two minutes.
You should only steep your tea for two minutes.
You should only weigh yourself before 9am.
You should never eat within three hours before bedtime.
You should sleep 8 hours every night.
You should only tap 20 minute naps.
You shouldn't drink coffee after noon.
You should wait half an hour after eating before swimming.
You should spend 3 hours for every credit of classes studying, per week. (I'm sorry but, never.)
I will drink coffee and eat snacks right up until I'm ready to turn off Netflix and go to sleep.
I will swim and eat at the same time... if I ever swam.
I will "study" exactly what I need to do well and then I will go right back to Netflix.
I will sleep for however long my body tells me.
I can't nap. They make me angry.
I don't believe that we should live our lives on a set timeline that some random magazine has published in an article. I don't think that it's right to have everyone living the same lives.
This is why you may think I'm crazy.
To my faithful readers: I have not blogged in a long while. But I've been busy. And quite lazy just as well. Sorry not sorry. But I think you'll like this next thing.
I. Am. Engaged
(Reader say what?!)
Yes. It's true. I just didn't post it on FB.
I didn't post a cutesy-pie status saying, "He asked and I said yes." Those are boring. And partially annoying.
I didn't post a surprise picture wearing a ring all of a sudden causing mass panic amongst my friends and family.
I just don't do things the way I'm expected to.
Why Didn't I Tell You?
Well, because I didn't want to hear the same questions/comments over and over again.
"When did he ask?
How did he ask?
And you've only been dating for how long?
You're not ready for that!
You don't know enough about each other!
You haven't had a screaming match/ground-breaking fight!"
I don't give a damn.
"But you've only known each other for five months!"
We're still in school, so don't worry, no plans anytime soon.
Yes, we haven't known each other for very long. We haven't dated for very long either. We haven't lived together. Yes, yes. This I know. But even though I'm not following the socially-constructed timeline that's expected of me. Technically, I'm ahead of everyone else in this society.
I'm in grad school. I have a job. I don't have any kids. I have a future. Etc. Etc.
Why is it such a surprise? Why is it so controversial? Because it's not how you want it?
Why, is it that we see a 70 year old couple, hear a story that they met and got married within two months and are still happily married, and think it's the cutest story in the world? I think if you react a certain way towards me, you're not giving my relationship a chance.
Because there are people in this world who date for 12 years and still aren't sure that they're ready for a commitment, even though they have a family, house, and life with this person. It's a scary world, eh? Divorce rates so high? Because people get married just to get married these days, or they're so concerned about finding the perfect partner that they spend their lives thinking there has to be someone better for them.
I've found my perfect counterpart, and I'm claiming him because I'm positive that he's my match.
If you think I'm wrong then,... for the first time ever... I don't want your opinion. You may think I'm crazy, or dumb, or whatever, but this is my life and I will live it however I choose.
Thank you,
<3 Tawny
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